I come to you all today with a hurting heart and I want to speak truth…. I am heartbroken our family is heartbroken I do not post this for you to judge me but mostly for you to pray for our family…
As many of you know we brought our 3 kids home from Haiti on December 15, 2015 and that in itself was a pure miracle and glory to god for allowing that to happen after a long gruly 5 year fight with both the Haitian govt and US govt to finally get them home.
What a lot of you don’t know is we have been fighting a battle of severe reactive attachment disorder, oppositional deffiant disorder and post traumatic stress disorder with all 3 kids but Juvens has by far been the worst affected by his traumatized abusing and neglected childhood. Basically this battle we have been fighting we unfortunately lost long before we relized how big of a problem it was.
Our fight has brought us to a point in time where Juvens now resides in residential treatment care for both his safety and for the safety of those of us in our home. After talking extensively with therapist, councelors, doctors, and social workers we have come to the decision this is what is best for Juvens and everyone else in our family.
I’m posting this because for six weeks I’ve quietly answered questions… The last 6 weeks he has been with his aunt and uncle in Illinois while we were researching and trying to get him accepted into a treatment program that woukd fit his needs. This is our life and I will not hide it anymore.
When you don’t see photos and video and updates on Juvens it’s because he’s not with us. He is currently at a great facility here in Indiana where he will get 24 hour round the clock care and he can start to heal and grow into a successful young man in our society.
We have not severed our adoption. We remain his family. But we have drawn a line. We are presenting our boundaries. And we are not letting him cross them.
Please don’t flood me with questions. I’m posting because it’s time to share but I just can’t answer dozens of messages asking for details. And please don’t suggest that: we aren’t loving him enough, we don’t understand how broken he is, we don’t see how scared he is, we are doing the wrong thing, we should try X,Y, & Z, he should talk to so & so, etc. Because you wouldn’t say it if this were a post about Kaden or Wes. You would trust that we are making the right decision. We are his family and we have been and are doing everything we possibly can to get him top notch professional help. We have exhausted ideas and options and this is where we are. If you’d like to know more about Reactive Attachment Disorder, oppositional deffiant disorder or post tramatic stress disorder we encourage you to research it and see the wide range of issues it presents. Maybe that’ll help anyone who isn’t acutely aware of what raising a trauma/RAD/ODD/PTSD kiddo is like understand the complex nature of this issue.
We sincerely hope that Juvens will thrive in the program he is in. We hope that he can get rid of the bad negative behaviors and replace them with new good ones! We want nothing but the best for Juvens we love him so much and we have already invested 6 years of our life loving him and getting him here. We really hope Juvens will see this as a positive opportunity and he will do very good in his treatment program. We are able to visit juvens and call and write him. We are able to be fully involved in his treatment and he hope we can see gradual positive changes being made.#ourcrazypricelife #haitiadoptions #truth #PTSD #ODD #RAD #lovewins#bebrave